Psychology of victims of domestic violence

Surprisingly, there is still no clear definition of “victim”.

The victim is usually the individual who is directly harmed.

A victim is a person who has lost values that are important to him or her or to another person

as a result of the influence of a group, certain events or circumstances.

According to international sources, the victims are called victims.

Today in our article we will focus more on the psychological of victims of domestic violence features:

Usually, if violence is used against a woman in the family, then the woman.

. feels helpless և superfluous;

. is afraid of his partner;

. feels lonely;

. blames himself only for everything;

.  has given up on himself և lives only with a sense of obligation.

There are several common characteristics of victims of violence: passivity, obedience, distrust,

low self-esteem, guilt, which, on the one hand, are conditions for domestic violence

On the other hand, these traits can be exacerbated by violence.

Often a woman, not realizing the origin of the cruelty inflicted on her, begins to blame herself

himself, looking for the causes of violence in himself. This phenomenon is called “victim condemnation”

The trend is also widespread in society.

In many cases of domestic violence, violence against women occurs

dependence. It can be said that it is this addiction that makes violence a cultural norm.

Usually the roots of this dependence lie in the parent family. children learn and repeat the marital models of the parents.

In cases of domestic violence, the wife also has the right to be abused by her husband

Conscious acceptance and waits when a woman believes that a man is by nature and social

role, tends to insult , to keep his partner in fear, and, therefore, should be calm and look at violence “philosophically”.

Potential victims of violence often exhibit the following behavioral characteristics:

. are afraid of their partner;

. often give in to their partner to offend or provoke their feelings out of fear;

.  feel the desire to “save” the partner when he finds himself in an unpleasant or difficult situation;

. justify the cruelty of the partner;

. tolerate partner’s  nervousness and being angry, hitting, pushing, concussions and other manifestations of the use of force; make their decisions depending on the partner’s desire or reaction;

. they justify their partner by saying that he is behaving like his father used to treat his mother.

A woman who is constantly exposed to physical and emotional abuse in her marriage

violence, is not able to clearly understand what he wants, what he loves, how he feels and what believes. He can not say “no” to others; he passively waits for when the demands of those around you will stop.

Women victims do not have a clear idea of how to treat others, they do not know where their personal psychology ends; their partner’s personal begins borders, they do not pay attention to their feelings and needs.

In a situation of domestic violence, women live in “contradictory” conflicts in the system of beliefs. “I did not do anything to deserve such treatment.”

“I am to blame for what happened.” But the thought that he can change a lot in his life inaccessible to him.

It is possible to remember that people with such psychology (more often than not women) make up a separate legal group, the psychology of which specializes in the study of psychology department, moreover, special science. Victimology of crime victims, which: examines the victim’s personality and behavioral characteristics for preventive purposes; psychological aspects, which can reveal what personal, social-role and other.

Due to the reasons, they became victims, the role of victims in the mechanism of criminal behavior in situations that preceded or accompanied the criminal behavior, linking the perpetrator to the victim relationships, both domestic and instantaneous, which are often preceded by criminal harassment, the victim’s behavior after the commission of a crime, which: it is important not only to investigate the crime, to identify the culprits, but also new for crime prevention.

There is a misconception among many that crime is just robbery or murder, and the victim is the person from whom it is stolen or killed. But as we see, It is not so simple, it is not easy, any woman, even without realizing it, can be her victim “own”; in the family. If there is a whole science, then it is obvious that the person often can not help himself to realize what is happening in his life. Therefore, any  woman, seeing the violation of her rights, should want to help herself and seek help.

Written by Ani Budaghyan, Lilia Simonyan